A firm male organ is often an invitation for a guy to break out the lube and engage in a joyous evening of self-pleasuring. For most men, that means engaging in solitary sensual play – but not always. Some men may take decide to drop in at a self-pleasuring club and make the gratification experience a social affair. Maintaining appropriate male organ health can make the experience even more enjoyable – and make a first-time participant less self-conscious, perhaps.

Kinds of Clubs

Generally, there are two kinds of self-pleasuring clubs: same gender and mixed gender. Same gender clubs for men are often called jack clubs; mixed gender clubs are often called jack-and-jill clubs. Same gender clubs are more common.

Interestingly, same gender clubs do not cater to an exclusively gay clientele. Most such organizations report that a significant portion of their population is bi or straight; in some, the majority of men are straight. This is not surprising – many straight men are interested in seeing what their "competition" is like while not necessarily feeling sensual attraction toward them. And some men just like to be watched by similar company while self-pleasuring.

Rules

The do's and don'ts are going to vary from club to club, but the following are general rules that usually apply to most self-pleasuring clubs.

• No oral, posterior or coupling sensual activity. Self-pleasuring clubs tend to differentiate themselves from other forms of sensual clubs by centering solely on self-stimulation. Those who wish to publicly engage in other forms of sensual activity should look to clubs that are geared toward their interests.

• Respect others. In many self-pleasuring clubs, manually stimulating another participant is allowed – but only if he or she wishes. Under no circumstances should a participant be touched or be forced to touch another participant against his/her will. This includes kissing, massaging, etc. as well as touching or rubbing sensual organs.

• Clean up. Participants should practice good hygiene; cleaning up seed spilled on the floor, walls, etc. after a release is the responsibility of the releaser. (Most clubs provide tissues or other means of wiping away seed.)

• Clothed observation is discouraged. In most clubs, there is a "no clothing" policy (aside from footwear for hygiene purposes). Not everyone who goes to a self-pleasuring club may feel like actively participating; they may wish to merely observe. In most clubs this is acceptable, as long as the observer is appropriately unclad.

• Be polite. Not every person is appealing to every other person. At a self-pleasuring club, a man may be approached by another participant who wishes to manually stimulate with him; if he is not comfortable with this, a polite "No thank you" should be all that is required. By the same token, if a man is politely turned down in this way himself, he should respect that person's desire to self-gratify in his own way.

• Be discreet. It's entirely possible that a man may run into a friend, acquaintance or co-worker – or even his boss – at a self-pleasuring club. Most men prefer to keep their participation in such clubs private; respect this wish.

• No substances. Recreational substance use is frowned upon at most clubs.

• Ask about lube. If possible, find out in advance what the club's policy is regarding lubricants: is this a “BYOL” establishment, or do they prefer that participants use lubricants provided on site? If BYOL, make sure to bring a good supply.

• Participate at one's own level. Some men want nothing more from a self-pleasuring club than to enjoy themselves in front of other men. Others like to participate more – by urging other participants on, complimenting another guy's member or engaging in conversation while stroking. It may take a while for a man to determine what feels comfortable for him.

It's possible to spend hours at a self-pleasuring club – and come out without a firm male organ but with a very sore one. Using a first-rate male organ health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) with excellent moisturizers (think Shea butter and vitamin E) can help here. Men who enjoy self-pleasuring may also want to make sure the cream includes L-arginine, as this ingredient helps create nitric oxide which in turns aids in keeping male organ blood vessels open.